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When you know better, you do better.

I come from a place and a time where “children should be seen and not heard”, was the order of the day and mental health was taboo. Fake it till you make it was a strength and acknowledging pain or struggle was a weakness. Perfectionism was the most pursued trait. This means shame was rampant and “riding shotgun”, as Brenè Brown would say. My parents owned the local Grocery Store and all the employees were like my older brothers. My mom cooked and we shared our meals. Her favourite phrase was, no one…


The consequences of shame

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SHAME -a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior.”she was hot with shame” · [More]synonyms:humiliation · mortification · chagrin · ignominy · loss of face

Verb (of a person, action, or situation) make (someone) feel ashamed.”I tried to shame him into giving some away”synonyms:humiliate · mortify · make someone feel ashamed · chagrin · embarrass


“The most ignorant people are those who deny their ignorance”

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ALL things work together for the good. The good, the bad and the ugly. I got rid of my rose colored glasses. Still, I remain rooted in that belief.

I am not too sure if it is because I was born with the the Intrauterine coil in my hand or the significance of my name. I am forever gratefull for my parents for my name. When someone utters your name, they speak into your life. It might be because God gave me the strength to swim right past the coil…


Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back. Harvey Mackay

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Save some, give some, spend some. It’s a good principle to apply in every area of life. Our time for example. We never seem to have enough of it and yet everyday we have the same 24 hours. “ There aren’t enough hours in a day” is the most used phrase I hear daily. Especially from my son or more accurately ,” Can I…


“ You should have protected me, you are my mother”, he muttered , his eyes glistening with tears.”

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Family Dynamics

I am a recovering co-dependent and people pleaser. I am also in the healing process from perfection syndrome and not “ good-enoughism.” I know it sounds awful, but it is true. I prefer to own my story and heal through it. Kicking shame to the curb, is my main aim. My husband is a beautiful soul, who had a drinking problem. He also had an anger issue. This is my story and not his, I will not elaborate on it at this…


I am nodding my head as I read this. I went through this in 2019 and had to have a total histerectomy July last year ,but the emotion trauma is so much worse. I invested in quite a few books at the time of diagnosis and still have not been able to read them. But this is not about me, I wanted to tell you about the scar tissue. I am seeing a chiropractor because of the Bone Pain and Muscle aches, she was able to treat the side where they removed my lymph nodes and got rid of most…

Hope Charmaine

Woman of Faith, Mom of two healthy human beings; Survivor . Hoping to pay it forward in lessons learnt!

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